After yesterday's post - 'Why Do Men Cheat?' the guys came at me with guns a-blazing on BBM (I wonder why they didn't come to the blog. Wusses!) claiming that women cheat too. If we're being honest, they're right - women do cheat - and they want to know why. They also claimed that when men cheat, they only do it on the physical level but, women are worse because they cheat on several levels - physically, emotionally, mentally, intellectually, financially etc Hehehe. Girls, you need to help me out here... Is this true?
Anyhoo, here are some of the excuses I could come up with in trying to save your ars*s because you know, I'm faithful *adjusts halo*
1) Vengeance - Yeah, karma is supposed to get the cheating men but sometimes karma just doesn't come fast enough. So, the women take matters into their own hands. Remember newton's third law - For every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction? Except that sometimes in this kind of situations, the revenge is "more equal" than the crime.
2) Loneliness - For the Men that leave their wives/family in a different country (or city for that matter) for whatever reason... hmmm! Same goes for long distance relationships. Don't buy a car if you won't drive it. Have you forgotten that the car needs to be warmed up every once in a while to keep it intact?
3) Boredom - You already know what they say about the idle mind and the devil's workshop which is already bad enough. Worse is when the devil's workshop is another man's arms.
4) An old flame - Every action can be re-actioned if the opportunity presents itself and the actioner and the actionee agree that the old action was good enough to be re-actioned anew. #TheGirlfriendsLaw #IntimacitiLaw
5) Emotional needs - Guys, don't underestimate the power of the frequent calls and messages and generally bonding with your lady. You gotta stay connected emotionally and otherwise, else you'll create a void for someone else to fill. Pick your phone now and call or send a mushy text message. Seriously!
6) Lack of attention/appreciation - The small things count! Notice her new hair, new nails, new makeup, new lashes, new shoes, new jeans... etc and pay compliments (try and sound as sincere as possible) If you're in doubt, assume everything is new. Trust us on this one. It's better to think it's new and be wrong than to assume it's old and pay no compliments.
7) Lack of romance - Guys, don't kid yourselves. Even after a million years, you still have to keep acting like you're toasting that babe or she'll seek the thrill somewhere else... looking for butterflies. Those butterflies in her tummy you awakened at the beginning have to be kept alive and fluttering.
8) Lack of appreciation - Women always want approval from their men. They want to know that they still got "it" where you're concerned. If you don't provide that approval, they'll pay more attention to whoever provides it.
9) Drunk mistakes - All I'll say is never leave your drunk girl alone or worse... with another man(or woman. Hehehe). Worst - with another drunk man (or drunk woman. LOL!) Don't say you were not told.
10) Feeling misunderstood - If a girl starts feeling like you don't understand her, that's the beginning of your problems. You'll become the guy she talks about, to the guy who actually understands her and comforts her and makes her feel better. O.Y.O is your case.
11) Experiments - The quest for something new... or different. I'm not sure but I think this is how bisexuals are made. Any thoughts?
12) Fear of breaking up - A woman who doesn't want to be with you but afraid to let go for whatever reason(*side eye* at violent men), will stay but don't you wonder how she's able to get through each torment of a day with you? *sealed lips*
13) Dissatisfaction - You're not doing what she wants in bed and that's all we'll say on this one. *readjusts halo* Communicate!
Girls, what did we miss?
Guys, now that you've received some of the answers to your question, what are you going to do about it?
Anyhoo, here are some of the excuses I could come up with in trying to save your ars*s because you know, I'm faithful *adjusts halo*
1) Vengeance - Yeah, karma is supposed to get the cheating men but sometimes karma just doesn't come fast enough. So, the women take matters into their own hands. Remember newton's third law - For every action, there's an equal and opposite reaction? Except that sometimes in this kind of situations, the revenge is "more equal" than the crime.
2) Loneliness - For the Men that leave their wives/family in a different country (or city for that matter) for whatever reason... hmmm! Same goes for long distance relationships. Don't buy a car if you won't drive it. Have you forgotten that the car needs to be warmed up every once in a while to keep it intact?
3) Boredom - You already know what they say about the idle mind and the devil's workshop which is already bad enough. Worse is when the devil's workshop is another man's arms.
4) An old flame - Every action can be re-actioned if the opportunity presents itself and the actioner and the actionee agree that the old action was good enough to be re-actioned anew. #TheGirlfriendsLaw #IntimacitiLaw
5) Emotional needs - Guys, don't underestimate the power of the frequent calls and messages and generally bonding with your lady. You gotta stay connected emotionally and otherwise, else you'll create a void for someone else to fill. Pick your phone now and call or send a mushy text message. Seriously!
6) Lack of attention/appreciation - The small things count! Notice her new hair, new nails, new makeup, new lashes, new shoes, new jeans... etc and pay compliments (try and sound as sincere as possible) If you're in doubt, assume everything is new. Trust us on this one. It's better to think it's new and be wrong than to assume it's old and pay no compliments.
7) Lack of romance - Guys, don't kid yourselves. Even after a million years, you still have to keep acting like you're toasting that babe or she'll seek the thrill somewhere else... looking for butterflies. Those butterflies in her tummy you awakened at the beginning have to be kept alive and fluttering.
8) Lack of appreciation - Women always want approval from their men. They want to know that they still got "it" where you're concerned. If you don't provide that approval, they'll pay more attention to whoever provides it.
9) Drunk mistakes - All I'll say is never leave your drunk girl alone or worse... with another man(or woman. Hehehe). Worst - with another drunk man (or drunk woman. LOL!) Don't say you were not told.
10) Feeling misunderstood - If a girl starts feeling like you don't understand her, that's the beginning of your problems. You'll become the guy she talks about, to the guy who actually understands her and comforts her and makes her feel better. O.Y.O is your case.
11) Experiments - The quest for something new... or different. I'm not sure but I think this is how bisexuals are made. Any thoughts?
12) Fear of breaking up - A woman who doesn't want to be with you but afraid to let go for whatever reason(*side eye* at violent men), will stay but don't you wonder how she's able to get through each torment of a day with you? *sealed lips*
13) Dissatisfaction - You're not doing what she wants in bed and that's all we'll say on this one. *readjusts halo* Communicate!
Girls, what did we miss?
Guys, now that you've received some of the answers to your question, what are you going to do about it?
xoxo...
Perfect. Blame it all on the men
ReplyDeleteLOL! What do you want us to tell you?
DeleteI believe Greed is a part of it
ReplyDeleteAh! The green-eyed monster within
DeleteSo basically women cheat because men aren't getting it right with them! I like that!
ReplyDeleteSarcasm? Hard to tell :)
DeleteHEY....she nt blaming it on d men@free dude,she z simply saying women v various reasons fr cheating n most of it comes from a man z action/actions...which is d truth!,fr example-ur name z free dude,if i were ur gurlfriend illd feel u want to explore wif a name lyk dahh-just saying.
DeleteTrue talk @ Debbie.
Delete@ Free Dude, your name does imply some suspicious moves. Hehehe. What is it really about?
Am not one of the pretending types.. I always say this, the only ting that ll buy my faithfulness in a relationship is"MONEY"..Yes, a deep pocket!!! Whatelse am i looking for out there? Some ll say good sex, and I say an expensive trip anywhere in the world is way better than good sex.. Some dudes even got it all if you lucky,lol.. Ego bu ndu! Money is life! #Xoxo..hehe
ReplyDeleteAh! Some home truth!
DeleteHow about Christian Grey? Are you ready??? #50ShadesOfGrey
Women and money though! Hehehehe in this day and age women should strive to work for their own money... whats the essence of all that education. Being a woman isn't about tilling farmlands and raising kids anymore...
DeleteI kinda like the girl friend's law... funny... No justification for cheating though and dudes, ain't nobody trying to blame nothing on you all... nice one Tess
ReplyDeleteWe like the law too! Lol
DeleteNo justification for cheating #TrueThat
Thanks hon
@ no9. Let's not blame it all on the alcohol. It is called liquid courage for a reason. If you cheated when you were drunk, you most likely have been considering it.
ReplyDelete@ no9. Let's not blame it all on the alcohol. It is called liquid courage for a reason. If you cheated when you were drunk, you most likely have been considering it.
ReplyDeleteInteresting notion... and kinda rings true but, don't forget that what alcohol does is; it makes you let go of your inhibitions - so you do something that you ordinarily wouldn't do. While sober, you may think it, but not do it. While drunk, all rational thinking and resistance fly out the window
DeleteWe are not saying it's an excuse for cheating, we are just pointing out how cheating might happen...
Deleteso because cheating is being viewed from a feminine lens we now have the 'Experiment' reason for cheating? is it a quest for a new and different fruit abi soup/
ReplyDeletemedoubts the lack of appreciation because Even God likes appreciation(at least speaking anthropomorphically)/
on Emotional needs, must the guy be the textee and callee, must i initiate it?
Loneliness is not an excuse o get a hobby
#beginning to feel like my old misogynist self cos girls are too glossy
Feel free to tell us your opinion/reasons you think women cheat. Dont forget to look at the "Why do Men Cheat?" post too.
DeleteAgain, these are not excuses to justify cheating. We are just looking at the factors that may give rise to cheating. There's no good excuse, but cheating still happens. So, why?
ReplyDeletethere is God but evil still happens..just like that...
Deletehaha..so you want a 'theories of cheating'...
1__Decision theory
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